Lonely Girl Phenomenology

poem and video | 7'11'' | 2017

In the video I share the social criticism expressed in Chris Kraus' feminist novel “I Love Dick” (1997). In Kraus' partly autobiographical book the married protagonist devotes herself to an obsession with another man. She verbalises her desires in love letters to him. Only in the beginning her words actually address Dick, later she writes them rather in order to express her fantasies, to reify and live them out. This kind of approach was extremely familiar and useful for me in the acceptance of my asexuality: I had to gradually understand that the object of my desires was not a person specifically but desire itself. The video mixes quotes from Kraus' and my own intimate thoughts to question the true meaning of intimacy and love and how to freely express these aspects of life without being forced to fit into social stereotypes.